Enmity and Jealousy
Enmity and Jealousy
It is said in the Holy Quran,
(And do not desire in things in which Allah has given dignity (blessing) among you over others. For the Men Folk is what they earn and for the women is what they earn. Solicit blessing from Allah. Surely Allah is aware of all the things. It is also in the Holy Quran I seek refuge from the evil of the Jealous when he is (bent upon) doing **jealousy.
*: Hazrat Miqdad (companion) (May Allah be pleased with him)says, The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) has said that when you find someone exaggerating in praise for someone else, fill his mouth with dust. When he heard someone praising in excess, he said the man has broken the back of his friend. On other occasion when a man praised his friend (more than due) he said you have cut the throat of your brother, he repeated this three times to stress the point. When someone finds it necessary to praise someone he should not say as if with conviction. He should qualify his praise with expressions such as In my opinion, I think so and so etc. The truth is known to Allah. The man should never claim conviction and fullness of knowledge.
**: The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) has said Jealousy eats own (destroys) good things as the jungle fire eats away trees , branches, etc. And sadaqah eliminates vices as water puts off fire. He also said, Jealousy spoils Eimaan as ALOES spoils the honey. Further on jealously spoils back biting and saying is as away from me as I am from them. Muslim brother
EVIL OF TYRANNY
The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) has said, "anyone who owes money to someone, he must get it cleared (paid off) before the advent of the Day (of Judgment) when there shall be no worldly riches to settle the account, but the good deeds in his account to pay off the debt (of the world) which (the deeds) shall be given to the other man. If there is no deed or his deed fall short the evil deed of other man shall be dumped in his balance (to make his own evil deeds heavier and lighter of the other man). He once asked his companion, do you know who is poor. They said they regard the man as poor who has no money in his possession. He said, In my Ummah the poor is one who comes with plenty of good deeds by way of prayers, fasting etc. but he had also abused some ones, usurped money and shed blood in the world. In order to settle his accounts his good deeds shall be transferred to those whose right be he usurped. If his good deed fall short; the evil deeds of the affected person shall be thrust in his balance and he will be condemned to remain in hell for ever.
He has also said, Anyone who endeavours to seek Pleasure of Allah at the cost of displeasure of the people, Allah will suffice him from the evils of people. But if anyone who tries to please people at the cost of the displeasure of Allah, Allah will entrust him with the people who will deal with him as they like (Allah's protection and safeguard will not be available to him) He also said, The most wretched man on the Day of Judgment shall be one for the sake of worldly betterments of others, spoiled his own fortunes for the Day of the Judgment.
He has further said; Protect yourself from the curse and imprecation of an oppressed man because when he will demand his rights, Allah does not deny any rightful man of his rights (even in the world).
ANGER AND PRIDE
The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) has said, Anger spoils the Eiman as ELWA (ALOES) spoils the honey. He also said, he who protect (safeguard) his tongue (from evil) Allah will cover his blemishes, and one who checks his anger, Allah will withhold His Punishment and one who seeks pardon (forgiveness) from Allah, He will grant him pardon! He has further said, Anger comes from Satan and Satan was created from fire, therefore when one is overtaken by anger, he should keep themselves away from mutual jealousy, enmity and back biting. He has said "Allah on the night of 15th of Shaban send down special splendour on his chosen servants. Those who seek forgiveness, H egrants them. Those who seek Mercy He grants them Mercy but He leaves those alone who bear enmity against one another." He also said "Twice in the week Monday and Thursday the deeds record of the people are presented before Allah. He forgives all except those who bear enmity against one another. He will not forgive them unless they mend their ways.
Ablution (with water) as water puts off the fire. He has also said, When a man becomes angry, he should sit down, if he is standing. If the anger does not subside, he must be down flat on the ground.
The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) speaking about the proud and the haughty people, the fact of these people will be that they will squeeze in the frames of ants but their faces will be of those men, there shall be all round curses on them, they will be dragged to the prison house of the hell, there shall be fire of the hell on them and they shall be made to drink the squeezed liquid of the hell dwellers. The final abode of the proud people is in the hell, according to the Holy Quran. He also said, "May I tell you about the people of the paradise? They are the people whom the unknowing and uninformed people of the world regard them as weak and resource-less but they so near in the Presence of Allah that if they swear in the Name of Allah, Allah will grant them forthwith whatever they wish. He further said, "should I not tell you something of hell dwellers, they are hard cored, hard natured proud and haughty people (condemned and accursed from the inception of the universe with their arch devil Satan). He also said, one who presents himself as meek and humble for the sake of Allah, Allah elevated him to great heights, thought the people of the world regard as small and of no consequence. And one how shows himself off as great and honourable before the people, Allah degrades and lowers him in status and he is looked down upon and disgraced in the eyes of those very people. The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) has said that there are three things which procure Deliverance and there are things which lead to destruction. The things which promise deliverance are (1) Adopt Taqwa (fear of Allah) openly and secretly for the sake of Allah (2) Speak the truth in moments of joy and grief and (3) Adopt moderation in the days of affluence as well as in days of adversity. And those things which lead to destructions are (1) Follow and pursue the evil desires and the path of evils (2) Slavery (object surrender) to stinginess and avarice.
SEVERANCE AND CUTTING OFF CONTACTS
The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) has said, "It is permissible (advisable) for a man to abandon his brother for more than three days at a stretch, and better of the two is he who offer salaam (greetings) first. The man seeking reunion should offer salaam three times. If still the other man does not respond, the blame for it should be diverted to uncompromising companion. He also said, if a man abandons his brother (in faith) for over a year, it is as if he has killed him. If a man severs connection with his Muslim for more than days and dies without reunion, he will be hurled in the hell.
ETIQUETTES OF TREATMENT
The following verses of the Holy Quran illustrate the fundamental etiquettes of treatments and behaviour in respect of adherence to worship of Almighty Allah, obedience to Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) respect and service of parents, elders and other fellow beings in Islam and the society.
Those who break Allah's covenant after it is ratified and those who break what has ordered to be joined and do mischief on earth. These cause losses to themselves. (Baqarah II:verse 27)
And Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him and that you be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain in your life, say not to them a word of contempt and act of kindness lower to them the wing of humility and say My Lord bestow on them Your Mercy even as they cherished me in childhoods.
(Bani Israel:verse 23-24)
The grand father of Bahaz bin Hakeem say, I asked the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) O Prophet of Allah! with whom should I render service of humility and sympathy. He replied, With your mother. (the question was asked three times and thrice the same answer was given. On the fourth occasion the answer was 'With your father, then with those who are near to him and those near to them.
The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) has said, " The one rendering obligation after his father or in his absence with his friend. Hazrat Asma bin Abu Bak'r Siddique (May Allah be pleased with them) says 'During the days when there was a path between the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) and the Quraish, my mother who was non-believer, came to me. I asked the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) what treatment should I render to her who is not in the fold of Islam? He replied; Treat her with kindness (and reverence due to a mother). This shows that even with non-believing parents, treatment should be according to their status as parents. He has said, One of the major sins is to abuse one's parents. The companions were surprised as to how and why so someone should abuse the father of another who abuses in return the father of the abuser (This is causing abuse to one's own father!). This may be even with mother and other respectable relations. This was during the Day of Ignorance (Jahiliyah or pre-Islam).
It is shocking that now a day, the respect of the parents is on the decline not by others, but their own children.
He has also said, "The pleasure of Allah lies in the pleasures of the mother, and the displeasure of Allah is hidden in the displeasure of the father."
One man came to the companion Abul Durda and said that his mother is commanding him to divorce his wife and he did not know what to do. Hazrat Abul Durda replied, I have heard the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) saying that mother is the middle door of the Paradise. Now it depends upon your pleasure to preserve and safeguard that door or destroy it".
He has further said, “Parents are the paradise and hell for the children, if they are kept pleased the reward is paradise and if they are displeased and teased the punishment of hell shall be their lot". Furthermore he had said, " One who begins his day on rising in the morning in a state that he had obeyed his parents the doors of Paradise are opened for him. And one who begins his morning in such a condition that he had disobeyed his parents, the doors of hell are opened for him since morning (which means in the hell throughout the day) and if there only one of the parents, then only one door of hell is opened since morning." A companion asked if the parents tyrannize him that is, if they behave like tyrants, He said, even though they tyrannize, even though they tyrannize, even though they tyrannize (three times).
The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) has said, " When the children look at their parents with love and tenderness, Almighty Allah for every look of theirs grants the reward of one Hajj-e-Mabrur." People asked him, even if they look at 100 times a day? He said, "Allah is Great and Generous, He has Power over everything. He is free from limitations which may restrict His Benevolence and Blessing. One companion come to the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) and said that he desired to go on Jihad (crusade) and fight in the way of Allah, He asked him if his mother was alive. The companion replied she was there (alive). The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) commanded him to go and serve (obediently and zealously) his mother. This paradise lies near the feet of the mother.
He has said that, mannan (who renders an act of kindness) who puts and displays, obligation of his deed on others the one who disobeys his parents and the habitual drunkard will not be admitted in the paradise (i.e. their abode is hell!).
He advised another companion who wanted to know how he could serve his parents who are no more alive, he told him he should pray to Allah for their forgiveness, fulfill the promises (contracts etc) his parents had with others, tread kindly those relations who were treated likewise by his parents, give due honour and respect to their friend etc. He said the treatment of elder brother to his younger brother is like the father to his son.
As for the maintenance of mutual relations the Divine Dispensation is that who join and keep it intact Allah also keep him (safe and) intact, and one who severs it. Allah also shatters and keeps him disjointed.
He also said "One who desires munificence in his livelihood and prolong his age, he should behave kindly and affectionately with his kins. There is also the mention of protection against a wretched death and the Prophet advice for constancy in praying for forgiveness from Almighty Allah.
He also said, The best modes of moral conducts are, `Try to keep contact with him who dissociates with you', `Forgive him who oppresses you', `One who desires that his age may prolong and there be increase in his livelihood he should behave affectionately with his kith and kin. (Sila-e-Rahmi).
PROBLEM:- `Sila-e-Rahmi', stands for joined and (steadfastly) maintaining the blood relations, by kind and affectionate treatment. There is consensus in the Ummah that Sila-e-Rahmi (maintaining blood relation by good and benevolent treatment) is wajib and Qata-e-Rami (cutting off, severance of blood relations by bad or oppressive treatment) is Haram.
There are different grades among the relations who come within the purview of Sila-e-Rahmi (also called Zawil Qurba, having close relationship) and the treatment towards them varies according to their status. The status of the parents among worldly relations, is supreme most, after them the blood relation and after them, all other family relations (as distinct from formal and spoken relations).
PROBLEM:- There are many ways to treat and affectionately deal with the blood relations, namely (1) give them gifts and presents (2) to help and accomplish their work and necessity in which your help is sought (3) to wish them well and often visit them at home, sit and converse with on matters of mutual interest and welfare, and behave with them in kind and pleasant manner.
PROBLEM:- If this relation is staying in another locality country to maintain correspondence contact with him and enquire about his progress and personal well being etc. This and other friends modes of treatment will ever keep the relationship fresh and progressive.
PROBLEM:- If the man himself is staying in a foreign country and his parent call him home he should fulfill their wish by personally coming down to them cool their eyes and warm up their affectionate treatment.
After the father the next relations deserving benevolent treatment are the grand father and the elder brother. Elder brother is a kin to father, elder sister and khala (mother's sister) one next to mothers place. Some scholars regard uncle next to father.
PROBLEM:- The relationship and mutual understanding must be kept alive by frequent to and fro visit or by maintaining correspondence among them. Exchange of gifts and presents will also strengthen the bonds of relationship.
PROBLEM:- It is reported in the hadees sharif that through sila-e-rahmi (maintaining the ties of relationship by all possible means) the age span expands which means longevity, and there is abundance in livelihood. Some scholars are of the opinion that by longevity is not meant the span of life beyond the destined person of life (which is not subject to change in life years in the world but they opine that after death the reward of good deeds increase which in other words means that the man is still alive and progressing (spiritually and non-sensationally of course!) or it means that after death his mention among the ahl-e-khair (people of good deeds, maintained).
AFFECTION ON OFFSPRING AND MERCY TOWARDS ORPHANS
The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) has said, "One who makes an orphan on equal partner in his sinner, Allah will make the Paradise as an essential (wajib) reward for him, except when he has not committed a major sin for which there is no forgiveness." And any one takes three girls or three sister under his patronage, gives them good education and treat them affectionately, till they become self earning and no longer need the patronage of their guardian, then ALLAH will make Paradise wajib, (an essential reward) for him. In that meeting he confirmed that Allah will bestow some reward for a man who patronizes two girls/sisters. If the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) was asked about one girl, he would have given the same reply.
He said, The man whose two dignified organs (Kareematain) have been taken away by the Providence, for him Paradise is wajib (a must reward). Explaining Kareematain (two dignified organs) he said "Two Eyes".
The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) once asked his companions should I not tell you what the most blissful sadaqah is? (He said) The sadaqah (charitable deed) which he offers for that daughter of his who has come back to him, meaning thereby that either her husband is dead, or he has been divorced and as such has come back to her father there is no one else to support and look after her.
He said, `None should bury his daughter alive, nor insult and disgrace her nor give preference to his male children over her Allah will grant him Paradise.' He also said, ` Anyone who teaches one aspect of good manner, it is better than one sa'a of sadaqah.' He also said, "there is no other gift, for a father to give to his children more valuable and precious than to teach manners to his children. Some more Ahadees in this respect are summarized below,
"Give respect and honour to your children and teach them excellent moral behaviours."
"Distribute equally between your children. If I were to give preference I would give it to girls (daughter)."
"Observe justice (and fair play) in whatever you give to your children if you expect that they should also be fair and just in rendering service and kindness to you."
"Allah likes that you observe justice in your treatment towards your children even while kissing them (out of fondness and affection)."
"One who supports an orphan (of his family or others) he and I will be in the Paradise so close as the two joining fingers are."
" One who passes his hand over the head of an orphan for the pleasure of Allah, Allah will give him for each hair that comes below his hand. And one who does any deed of benevolence out of affection with any orphan boy or orphan girl, I and he will be in the Paradise as close as the two adjoining fingers of a hand. Whenever he passes his hand over the head of an orphan boy the movement of his hand should be from backward to forward (neck to forehead) while doing so for his own son (or any boy of the family or else's), other than orphan, the movement of the hand towards the neck (forehead to neck).
RIGHTS OF NEIGHBOURS
The Holy Quran says,
(" Serve ALLAH and join not any partners with Him, And do good to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, those in need neighbours who are near neighbours who are strangers, the companion by your side, the way farers and what your hand possess, for Allah loves not the arrogant, the vainglorious.")
The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) has said "BY Allah! He is not Momin, which the companions requested him to say who that person was", he replied, "the man from whose repressive treatments, his neighbours are not safe."
He said, "the man will not enter the Paradise, whose hands are not in peace."
He said, "The man who believes in Allah and the Last Day (Day of Judgment), should treat his neighbours with dignity and honour."
Hazrat Abdullah bin Mas'ood has reported that Once a man came and asked the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) how can he know whether the deed done by him was it good or otherwise? The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) replied, `When you hear your neighbours that you have done good, the deed is good. Similarly, when you hear your neighbours saying you have done wrong (bad) it is so.'
He has said, "Momin is not that man who eats full stomach while his neighbour nearby lies hungry."
He has said, "Whenever someone cooks (tasty) thing, he should increase the broth whereby he can serve his neighbour."
"A woman who is very excessively performing religious dues of prayers (salat), fasting etc, but due to her sharp and abusive tongue, her neighbours are not in peace", The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) said about that woman `she is in hell' (she is destined to go to hell). Likewise about a woman who was said to be less devoted to religious acts but she behaved with her neighbours kindly and co-operatively, the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) said, "she is in Paradise." (i.e. her destination on the Day of Judgment Paradise and Allah's Pleasure).
He has said, "Allah has distributed good moral conduct among you as He has distributed the means of sustenance, He bestows the world to one who is dear to Him as also to him whom He does not admire. But the Deen (The straight Path) of Religion only to the person who is beloved in His Presence. Therefore the man who is blessed with the Blessings of Religion (Deen) is also Dear to Allah as His chosen servant. I swear in the Name of One in Whose Hand is my soul, a man cannot be a (true) Musalman unless his heart and tongue are also not Musalman, (testify the Eimaan and Islam by his thoughts and utterances.) and so long as his neighbours are not in piece at his hands."
He has said, "For a Muslim it is a matter of worldly blessing if he has a pious and virtuous neighbour, spacious house to live and comfortable means of transport. And do you know what are the rights of your neighbour towards you. There are, "You should help him when he asks you,
Lend him money when he requests you.
You should attend to him when he becomes ill.
Congratulate him when something lucky and pleasing comes to him.
Console and pacify him when he is in distress.
Attend to his funeral when he dies.
Do not raise your walls higher than his without his consent.
Give him no trouble; rather give him something lusty from your cooked stuff.
When you buy fruits present him something from it or else bring them in your home without his knowledge.
Continuing stress of the rights due to the neighbours, the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) said, In the name of One in whose hand is my soul, there are very few people who are aware of the right of the neighbours and fulfill their duty. These are the people whom Allah has blessed. The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) stressed the rights of the neighbour so much that the people thought the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) would make them the sharers in the inheritance of their property. Then he said, "Neighbours are of three kinds, some have two rights towards their people and some have only one right. The neighbour who is Muslim and is also a relative, he has three rights (1) The right of Relationship. The Muslim neighbour has two rights namely (1) the right of neighborhood. The companions asked the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) if they should offer them anything from their sacrifices, he replied that `nothing need be given to him'.
PROBLEM:- If by going up the roof and terrace if the privacy of the neighbour is violated, then either the walls of one's house should be raised so that there may not be any complaint in this behalf , alternatively going up the terrace may be discarded for the sake of the neighbours convenience.
KINDNESS TOWARDS THE PEOPLE
It is said in the Holy Quran,
(Help and co-operate with one another in matters of goodness and righteousness and do not help any in matters of evil and transgression.)
The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) also said, Allah does not show Mercy to those who show no sympathy and kindness towards the people.
Summary of more Ahadees in this connection is given below,
The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) has said, That man is not in our fold who is not kindly disposed towards the youngster and does not show respect and reverence to the elders, does not inspire for doing good and avoiding the evil. It is reported through Hazrat Anas, if the young man accords respect to an elderly man in consideration of his age then Allah will depute men to show honour to that young man when he reaches that advance age.
The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) has said, When (a kind hearted man) of my Ummah fulfills the necessities of a Muslim brother with intentions to please him, he pleases me. And one who pleases me, he pleases Allah Who will admit him in the Paradise.
He said, Anyone who does justice to an oppressed man, Allah will reward him with seventy three forgiveness, only one which shall be enough to fulfill all his ambitious and the remaining seventy two forgiveness will cause enhancement of his on the Day of Judgment to that extent.
He said, All Momins are like a unified one person, If an eye pains him, the entire body suffers and feels the pain; Similarly the ailment in the head (or any other part) becomes the ailment of the whole body.
He said, A Momin is like another Momins edifice; one part of it strengthens and solidifies the edifice of the other. Then he joined two fingers of his hand to show how two fingers when joined together become source of strength, moralizing thereby that Muslims should remain united providing strength to one another.
He said, A Momin is another Momins brother. He should neither oppress him nor leave him at the mercy of others and one who engages himself to fulfill necessities of another man Allah engages Himself to solve that man’s problems and difficulties.
He said, Anyone who removes one pain from the pains of other man, Allah on the Day of Judgment, will remove one calamity from the calamities of that Day. And one who covers and hides the evil of his Muslim brother, Allah will cover his blemishes on the Day of Judgment.
He said, A Momin is not a Momin unless he likes (and provides) for his brother what he likes for himself.
He said, Give treatment to other according to their status and dignity. It is hard to have a single grade of treatment for all and sundry. However cares should be taken that in treating people differently, no insult and humility should be caused to any one.
He said, All the creatures (People at large) are like the member of Divine Family and the dearest among them is he who renders self service to others (of the members).
He said, Where you be fear Allah all the time. If an evil deed is committed, offset it by doing an act of goodness. The good deed will effect and eliminate the effects of the evil deed.
PRETENCE AND EXPECTING FALSE PRAISE
The exact words mentioned as sub-head line of this subject are "RIYA" which stands for Hypocrisy, preference or outward display of some permissible deed or deeds to establish some pretended sincerity and honesty while the real facts are just the opposite.
The others word of the caption is "SUMAH" derived from the Arabic root word sumah (to hear). Here the intention is that people may hear about the deed without seeing and knowing personally and praise it as the good deed. The purpose in this case is the hypocritical ambition of listening praise from the people who are unaware of the real facts, in that, the doer is hungry of self praise.
Both these traits are symptoms of hypocrisy, as the deeds done are not honestly intended nor sincerely performed. Obviously these deeds of goodness in themselves do not fetch the promised reward; on the contrary it becomes source of punishment from Allah.
It is said in the Holy Quran,
(O believers! do not falsify (render useless) your deeds of charity through expecting praise and causing trouble, like the man who spend his money just to show to the people.) It is further said,
(One who hopes to meet his Lord, (Sustainer) (Allah), he should perform deeds of Goodness and not associate anyone in the worship of his One Allah, the Lord (Sustainer). (The learned scholars are of the opinion that this verse is by way of forbidding hypocrisy - Riya).
At another place it is said in the Holy Quran castigating those who are neglectful of their prayer and when they offer prayer (salat) it is to show to the people.
Curse on those offerers of salat who are negligent (sloth) in their prayer and which they offer to show to the people and who refuse to lend for the time being even small things of daily use. It is also said.
The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) has said that Allah does not look at your faces, your wealth, He looks towards your heart and your deeds.
He also said, One who does a good thing so that people hear about it, Allah will make (his punishment) to be heard and one who does a good thing as a pretense, he will suffer too his pretense (in which case good deeds become unrewarding).
He further said, Even a minute part of hypocrisy is Shirk (denying Tauheed). Among the servants of Allah the most beloved ones are those who hide themselves from the general people such that if they intend to be unidentified, people cannot recognize them, and if they give evidence (in the open) they still remain unrecognized. They are the leaders (Imams) of the guidance (Hidayat) and Bright Lamps of knowledge.
He was once heard saying, One who offers with "riya" (to show to the people and not with devotion), he commits shirk (unbelief and associating some else with Allah), And one who keeps fast with "riya" he (too) is guilty of shirk, And one who offers sadaqah with `riya' he also commits shirk.
The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) has said, I apprehend my Ummah clandestine shirk and lust. When companion asked him if people commit shirk after him, he said `yes' but they will not worship, the sun, the moon, the stone-god and idols, but they will commit hypocrisy in their deeds the hidden lust or passion means that in the morning the man will keep the fast but under some (impulsive) desire, he will break the fast (before schedule).
He said, On the Day of Judgment, the first man whose case shall be decided the `shaheed' (martyr). He will be presented before Almighty Allah Who will ask him about His Bounties, which he will admit. He will be asked, how he repaid the bounties, the man will say that he fought in His (Allah) Way and was martyred. Allah will chastise him and say, You are liar, you fought so that people may call you brave, which they did. (indicating that what he desired, he got!). The man will then be asked to be dragged on his face and thrust in the hell. Then another man will be called for accountability this man had learnt and taught the Holy Quran. He will be asked about the bounties of the Providence which he will name as having been benefited by them. He will be asked as to how he repaid these Divine Bounties. He will say that he secured knowledge, learnt and taught the Holy Quran for His Pleasure. He will be condemned as a liar because he secured knowledge and taught Quran so that the people may praise him. Praised him, which he was acclaimed and thus got what he wanted. He will be dragged to the hell like the Shaheed before.
Thereafter the third man who was blessed with plenty of riches and luxuries of every description. He will be asked how he repaid the Bounties of Allah. He will also claim that he spent his wealth to the cause of Allah. He will declare as a liar or because he spent his money on luxuries and whatever he gave to the poor and the needy, it was merely an act of pretense. Like the earlier men he will be dragged to the hell as a punishment for his hypocrisy.
The Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) has said, One whose desires (and deeds) are directed for the deliverance and success in the Hereafter, Allah will bless him with the quality of self-sufficiency (self-sufficiency or Istighna), fulfill all his desires and the world will come unto him in an object slavish manner (begging his favour). And the man whose sole ambition is to indulge in the world and its affairs, poverty and paucity will become his fortune, his ambitions and affairs shall be shattered (far from being fulfilled!). He will get (not according to his desires) but whatever he is destined to get. Hazrat Abu Hurairah once went to the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) and reported that one day he was offering prayer inside his house when a man suddenly appeared before and saw Hazrat Abu Hurairah in this condition. He felt pleasure that he was seen in this condition. He asked the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) if it was not riya (pretense). He informed Abu Hurairah that he was twice blessed, for offering prayer secretly as well as openly. Engagement in prayer is exclusively for Almighty Allah and should be offered with all sincerity for this exclusive aim. If on being seen by the people (unintentionally) creates a feeling of delight, it is as a natural impulse which has nothing to do with riya (pretense or hypocrisy).
It can be said that the reward (or punishment) for any good deed depends upon the sincerity and honesty of the intention or Niyat. Anything of self pleasure through praise by the people or gaining popularity which cause self-relation all there amount to Riya (pretense) or sunn'ah (bearing of own's praise and the pleasure by) and their requital in the Hereafter is hell, as we have mentioned in the aforesaid Hadees in which the fate of self-styled martyr, the religious scholar and the man of resources all of whom pretended to perform deed of virtues through means at their disposal and were ultimately dragged to hell, there eternal abode.
PROBLEM:- It is better to perform deed of goodness in such a way that there should not be any trace of self-praise or self-elation. And if one asks about it, the answer should be plainly affirmative without mincing words. If an attempt is made to hide the fact in a way that the secret comes out, then it amounts to riya or pretense.
There are states of Riya (pretense) (1) Some time the pretender does this mischief with the real modes of worship. For example, He offers namaz, when he is sure that people are looking at him. If no man is there to look at him, even when the time of prayers is running, he will not offer namaz, this is the kind perfect Riya (Hypocrisy) and there is no reward for such a worship.
The second state of Riya is that there is no riya in the mode of worship itself. Whether there is any one or not to witness his worship, but the difference lies in the quality of worship which becomes evident when someone else is with or near and when there is none near about. Obviously, this is a riya of a lessor grade. Why should there be any difference in the quality of performance of good deed? The soul or essence of the deed should be criterion and not the presence or absence of men around.
PROBLEM:- If a man is keeping fast, he should hide or waver to admit this fact when someone asks him about this? Some time people shy to admit when they are in the midst of non-observers of fasting who at times make fun of simple natural Momin in the modern society where religion is looked down upon as a secondary aspect of life.
PROBLEM:- People demand or receive money for reciting Holy Quran for the Eisal-e-Sawab of a deceased or some fixed occasions. This is a type of Riya. If the money is not given he does not recite the Holy Quran. Reciting Quran with a wage does no good to the reciter or the one who invites him for this purpose. In such a situation the fate of the deceased hangs in balance! He is benefited only when some person recites the Holy Quran purely for the soul of the deceased with no ulterior or monetary behind.
PROBLEM:- When a person goes on Hajj carrying some goods, articles of sale. Obviously his pilgrimage to the Holy Land has twin purposes (1) performing Hajj and (2) sale of goods to earn benefits which is permissible under Shariat Laws. He motives and preference between the two purposes will decide which reward is his lot. If the basic intention is (and it should be so) to perform Hajj with single minded devotion so that it may be rewarded in the Presence of Allah, and do the business if any time is available during free times during Hajj or better still, after the Hajj. This will fetch him both the rewards of the Deen and the dunya. If, unfortunately his primary intention is to earn profits through business and perform hajj a secondary issue, then he is doomed to be cursed. The worldly benefit (profit) will not last long, but his loss in both the worlds will be eternal.
PROBLEM:- There is no Riya or show off pretense in the performance of Farz parts of the worship[. The Farz segment of the worship [performed even with Riya shall be taken as having been attended. It is however a separate issue if it is accepted or not. If therefore when the Farz is compulsorily to be performed, then why not do this with sincerity and without pretense or riya.
PROBLEM:- Eisal-e-Sawab means to convey the blessings of the Recitation of the Holy Quran, Durud Sharif, and other recites and prayers etc to the souls of the deceased Momin men and women so that they may be blessed with Divine Grace and Mercy in the spiritual universe, where they stationed after their death. The modes of Eisal-e-Sawab may also be practical deeds carrying eternal reward. This is permissible and to call it `bidat' or something of this kind is cruel. It is also proved by the Ahadees of the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) beside some of authentic religious Books written by eminent scholars of Islam.
It is reported that when the mother of Hazrat Sa'ad died, he came to the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) and asked what sadaqah is most blissful. He replied "Water". Hazrat Sa'ad dug and constructed a well of sweet water and dedicated to his mother. This indicates that good and beneficial deeds by the living carry (eternal) blessing for the deceased. This is what is known as sadaqah-e-jariya. (The deed of charity carrying eternal recurring blessing). There are many such deeds which come within the purview of sadaqah-e-jariya, for details learned scholars and relevant books may be consulted.
There are many customs and ceremonies adopted for the Eisal-e-Sawab. There are no fixed days and processes of this purpose. The fundamental point to be kept in mind that everything done should be with honest and pure intention without any semblance of personal status. The Eisal-e-Sawab is meant and dedicated to the souls of the deceased. It is therefore imperative that whatever is conveyed must be genuinely pure worth approval of Divine Grace and Mercy.
ASSEMBLIES OF DIVINE BLESSINGS
PROBLEM:- Meelad Sharif (celebration of the Birthday) of the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) is not only permissible but also it is the fountain head of spiritual and mundane blessings. To celebrate this most auspicious day of the year, meetings, assemblies, conventions, seminars and public meetings are held in open grounds, or within the four walls of mosques and houses. In these gathering the special features of life history and Prophetic Accomplishments of the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) are mentioned with due dignity and veneration by learned scholars and religious leaders which people listen with devoted attention.
In the Majlis-e-Milad are, ritual are faithfully observed and there is no room for any objection or criticism about. It is the reverential Love, Affections and Devotions towards the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) that is the prime motive for holding such spiritual gathering. Distribution of street etc is also one of the features of these gathering.
In these majalis at the time when auspicious moment of the Birth of the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) is mentioned during the course of speeches etc. the entire audience stands up as a mark of respect of devoted homage to the greatest Benefactor of mankind Hazrat Muhammad Mustafa (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam). This is perfectly justified rather it is source of blessing for all the participants. AT that auspicious occasions recitation of Durud-o-Salaam and praised poetical renderings are also rehearsed. It is reported that in these auspicious assemblage some great devotees have been blessed with anguish visual presence of the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) we commoners who cannot and should not claim any spiritual perfection must respectfully accept this very very rare bestowment from the heavenly kingdom upon the chosen people bellow and through them the general aspirants of Divine Blessings.
In majlis-e-Milad Sharif and other religious gathering are organized to celebrate special occasion or personalities. For example, Majlis-e-Meraj Sharif, which as its name suggests, is celebrated the most unique auspicious in the history of the universe (both heaven and the earth) when the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam) went in the Journey of the heavenly universe on the Night of Ascension known as Meraj Sahrif. In those blissful assemblies the events of that Journey are narrated which inspire and invigorate the Emanic Impulses of the Momins.
PROBLEM:- Death Anniversaries of the Khulafa-e-Rashideen (May Allah be pleased with them) are also celebrated which also are permissible and must be regarded as occasions of remembrance of great achievements of these most revered personalities after the Holy Prophet (SallAllaahu alayHi wa AaliHii Wasallam).
PROBLEM:- Holding of 10 Days Majlises in the month of Muharram is also valid in which the events of the Karbala are narrated to remind the Ummah that without the supreme sacrifice of the people of Ahle-e-Bait the survival and eternal permanence of Islam would not have been possible because the forces of evil and corruption were greatly and perilously determined to outdo Islam in those turbulent days of Islamic history.
(Note: Other details relating ceremonies, rituals, recitation of Marsias and other practices which are apparently un Islamic and have authentic reliable evidence in religious Books have been deliberately omitted. These details can be seen on pages 424 - 425 of the Book Published by Muslihuddin Publications, Memon Masjid, Muslihuddin Garden, Karachi).
PROBLEM:- Among all the languages prevalent at the moment. The Arabic Language is the Most Perfect and Most Dignified. It is the language of the Holy Quran. This will also be engaged to be used among the Dwellers of Paradise. One who learned and teaches Arabic will be Divinely rewarded. It is essential for all the Muslim to learn Arabic, so as to be able to comprehend Islamic Books especially the principles and details of Islamic Laws which are mostly in Arabic.
PROBLEM:- Moral stories and Fables can be studied, because they contain principles in the garb of intelligently intended fables which serve as useful guide lines for the conduct of problems of daily occurrence in the life.
OTHERS MISCELLANEOUS PROBLEMS
One who owes debts and refuses to repay then the creditor can take anything of equal value belonging to the debtor.
Speaking in a soft persuasive manner is a virtue, but it should not be mistaken as flattery.
Locust is a lawful bird, it can be killed for eating.
Bribery becomes permissible in exceptional circumstances, when there is danger to life and honour, when some immediate delicate issues depend on it, as an inducement for receiving one's own dues.
Calling father (owner) by name is makrooh. Naming him as a matter of course amounts to degradation, and as a show of familiarity which breeds contempt.
To wish own death and to pray for it is makrooh, especially when it is on account of excessive hardship. However in cases of increasing immorality and deviation from path of morality and guidance and there is fear of one's involvement then death as an escape is desirable, even then it is better to pray for solidarity of Eiman to resist to evil rather than to submit the pressure and prepare for death.
Plague as an epidemic is curse, but those are in the region where plague has broken out should not run away from there, nor other should go there.
To call certain months and dates as bad omen is not correct. To take omen for and against in respect of anything is not correct.
To rely on astronomy, astronomy or any occult science is forbidden.
Jan Mantar etc are mere superstitions.
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